This week is Halloween and that usually means witches, skeletons, eyeballs (eww!), spiders, mummies, pumpkins (yum!) and dressing up!
So I thought we could talk about some SCARY topics! But no ghosts, vampires or witches! Instead we will be dwelling on some of the things we get ‘scared’ about when dressing up.
Your self-image when we shop for outfits and accessories is often based on this little voice talking to us inside our head. I’ve learnt to nickname it The BS’er. Most of the time it determines our self-perception in a negative way and it can quickly become the decision-maker when we decide what we SHOULD and SHOULD NOT wear.
Today’s topic is RANG – COLOUR: I will ask you a simple question and I would like to hear your honest thoughts:
Is there a colour you totally do not wear?
Culturally we tend to associate the colour red with a bride, and apparently back in the days unmarried girls didn’t even wear red until their wedding day! And did you hear that only widows wore white clothes and chunnis in particular? These days we don’t follow these traditions much, and we wear all colours. But it seems that there are other issues prevailing and the obsession of the “fair-and-lovely” look is deeper than just a skin brightening cream. Some colours seem to be a no-no for darker skin ladies. For example, a bright colour like yellow. I have often overheard ladies at the pop-up shops saying: “yeah that is so pretty but I can’t wear yellow, it suits other people but it just doesn’t suit my dark skin”. I often wanted to ask them in more detail what makes them have this perception of themselves, an almost a self-limited belief about a simple thing such as colour. Might not be the most appropriate place to ask I agree, and mind you I wouldn’t want to sound like a stereotypical Indian salesperson: “Leloo, leelo, dekho kinay sohna lagega” even if people love a yellow tikka set but don’t really have the desire to wear it, you won’t hear me forcing it upon them.
But I wonder. Why do some of us start boxing ourselves into categories and limit our choice and thereby our creativity when it comes to dressing up. Is it so bad if a dark-skinned person wears yellow just because they love yellow?
Sure, we all have different skin tones and different hair and eye colours etc. but who says some colours are for certain people alone?
If you can resonate with the above and would like to hear my opinion on this, keep reading!
I have two things I would like to say on this:
TRUTH of the matter is, there aren’t any specific colours you should steer clear of my lovely ladies, no matter your skin tone or age for that matter. But IF there still is a colour that you are uncertain about, just avoid wearing that colour on its own! Yep!
So if you are conscious of e.g. yellow then don’t wear a
full yellow outfit, but contrast a pink outfit with yellow jewellery! Yay!
Do you LOVE red outfits on other people but feel red is for women younger than you? So if you can’t convince your mind to JUST DO IT ANYWAY, I would suggest you accent with something red. Maybe a white top with red earrings, necklace or scarf? It will prompt you to re-evaluate how you perceive yourself as sometimes we just start doing things out of habits, or based on other people’s opinions.
Luckily, for each colour there are so many shades. Think of the colour of a lemon, if you find that is too bold and bright, then why not try a deeper yellow such as mustard yellow? Imagine how many variations there are of each colour and how many combination options that gives you! (just so you know there are over a MILLION colour shades! Yes I looked it up!)
See? There is nothing SCARY about colours if you use the two tips above!
Moral of the story is: DON’T BE SCARED OF A COLOUR YOU HAVE
CONVINCED YOU ARE TOO LIGHT/DARK OR OLD FOR. JUST TWEEK IT TO SOMETHING YOU ARE
CONFIDENT WEARING SO YOU DON’T FEEL YOU HAVE TO LIMIT YOURSELF TO JUST A FEW CHOICES!
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